What makes my perfect holiday? This is a question I was asked in order to qualify for something that I’d really love to be a part of, but the truth is that I am struggling to answer it. What does make my perfect holiday? What is my perfect anything?
I’ve been mulling it over and I think that so often, in seeking for perfection, only disappointment is found. We fantasise about the perfect man, the perfect holiday, the perfect life but the truth is that perfection is a myth and hunting for it can be a sort of torment.
The most we should hope for is to find happiness, not perfection, because happiness is something that is within our control. It means that even when things are going wrong, even when things are not as you expected, you can still find the happiness in it if you choose to look. It’s dancing in the unexpected rainstorm or making an exciting adventure out of getting lost on a walk. It’s focusing on how, one day, you’ll look back on a disastrous day and laugh together – as a family – at a family memory, all jumping in to tell different bits of the story as you remember them.
I mean that’s not to say that there aren’t things I’d enjoy – good food, new experiences, time to myself. Seeing a completely different environment through my childrens’ eyes, spending time together as a family without worrying about the day-to-day pettiness of dinners and hoovering – maybe even getting a little time alone with my husband to remember how we were before we became Mummy and Daddy (although that seems almost too big a dream, lost as I am in the rituals of life with two small children) – all these things would certainly make for a very happy holiday.
Perfection, though, is more in the moments than in the whole. Perhaps that’s what I want from a holiday – time together as a family, precious time – as a group and with each individual – reconnecting. Perfection is in the hindsight; when you look back at your memories and certain images remain with you, crystallised in time and you know they’ll be with you forever. Moments like this:
Or like this:
Or like this:
My perfect holiday would just be lots and lots of moments like these.